This article first appeared on the inaugural BetterMan Magazine found here

When does a man believing in himself mean that he is confident and when does it mean he is arrogant? On the flipside of that, when does shy or introverted behaviour translate to low self-confidence and when does it mean something else entirely? The problem we face when trying to understand these behaviours is that even the experts can’t agree on what is what.
I believe self-esteem to be …



Each of us has an unconscious process or recipe that we follow when we are performing at our best. Each sport or area we perform in will have its own unique recipe. The challenge is that when someone really want’s to succeed and do well, he or she might start focussing on really wanting to succeed and doing well –focusing on the win, the result, the score, instead of his or her own recipe which has worked before and will …